This question may not seem very serious but it's something that comes up every now and then when I'm talking to my girlfriends. I often wonder if things we dwell on and overreact to as women are things that guys even care about.
When chatting with some friends a couple weeks ago during a conversation about hair, the topic of what we do with our hair when we go to sleep came up. Most of us admitted to either wrapping our hair in some type of scarf or putting our hair up in ponytails/buns. It was only natural that the topic would progess into asking whether or not we wear our hair wrapped men there is male company prsent. One of the women who was a part of the conversation admitted that even though she is engaged and has had over night stays with her man on many occasions, he has NEVER seen her with her hair wrapped. I actually think my face dropped, I mean never??
Having been a serious fan of A Different World, I instantly thought back to the episode where Whitley and Dwayne were newlyweds and Whitley would rise at the crack of dawn before Dwayne woke up just to take out her curlers, brush her teeth, and apply makeup/perfume. All this to give him the impression that she woke up looking just as perfect as she did before she went to sleep. Now this may be extreme, but I think most women do some form of this practice.
My approach; however, has always been to keep it 100. Whenever I've had male company over, friend or otherwise, I ALWAYS wrap my hair. I feel like there's no need for me to pretend like my hair just naturally lays down. The idea of laying down and waking up the same way is cute, but not realistic. I figured waking up with tangled, matted down hair just for the sake of looking cute while we're both supposed to be sleeping is borderline ridiculous lol. Am I keeping it too real?
So my questions for the fellas out there is whether you all actually care how we look when we go to sleep? Do you want us to leave the scarves for nights we're sleepign alone, or would you rather learn about us now before you put a ring on it and all formalities fly out the window?
*I know you guys are out there reading this. You've either told me, or someone else that you do so I would appreciate some participation here ;-)
Personally the scarves and wrapping don't phase me. I know it takes some work to maintain the hair and I'm not tripping. I don't expect you to wake up looking like you're ready to leave the house. That's just not realistic :) And I'd rather know beforehand, not get surprised later. I vote for keeping it 100!
ReplyDeleteIt doesnt bother me that much either, BUT if that rag is accompanied by a large tee and sweats you've had since middle school(jelly stains, paint, etc.) i might feel some type of way... dont completely transform...if u have to wear a head wrap cause u dont wanna mess up the "do" wear sumthin sexy to bed... not necessarily lingerie but something that shows off your shape.
ReplyDeleteKeep it 100 but we ALL SHOULD KNOW that there are some instances where KEEPIN IT REAL GOES WRONG. Dont wanna go to bed wit Halle (Berry) and wake up to Whoopie (Goldberg)!! lol
See, I figured the guys would appreciate us keeping it real lol. And of course keeping it real can always go wrong. I've seen some chics where some crazy stuff to sleep, stuff I wouldn't even wanna see myself in lol.
ReplyDeleteI figure me being judged for my scarf is like me judging a dude for wearing his wave cap or du-rag at some point to keep the waves in motion lol. And don't say yall don't do this bc I've seen it on a number of occasion lol.
the wave cap can be tied up and not noticeable... but on some women the scarf gets in the way... or may look like something that should be under the sink instead of on ones head...
ReplyDeleteI dunno what kind of women you've been spending the night with lol. MAYBE you should take a look at that.
ReplyDeletelol I didnt say it was ME but have heard horror stories....CHECK YA SELF B4 U wreckyaseeeelf! lol
ReplyDeleteSee I would say keep it about 75. I mean if you need the scarf for the hair then cool. But like one of the earlier comments said you can leave off the sweats and oversized Immature concert tees with the holes and cranberry juice stains. Because seriously that would make me uncomfortable laying next to you.
ReplyDeletelol damn. Uncomfortable though? I guess I can see where you fellas are coming from. Scarves fine; crusty bedroom attire, hell no. lol.
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